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The Pageist - BDSM & Sex-Positive Book Reviews

The Pageist is a podcast about books on BDSM and other forms of non-traditional sexual expression and relationships. Including fiction, non-fiction and graphic novels; from the classics to contemporary works and featuring topics from ethical non-monogamy to sex work to gender issues to kink to the science of sex.
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Aug 25, 2016

Episode the Twenty-Second; Wherein the Pageist tries a new app designed for kinksters, discovers a podcast for sexy thinkers and learns to be ethically slutty.

The book reviewed this episode is The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • Welcome to the new listener in Latvia!
  • Thank you to the new survey-taker. Mwah! Mwah!

1.35 My Submissive Life:

  • I tested the KNKI app. Their website is: here.
  • Also, Intellectual Foreplay is a new favorite podcast. Check them out here.
  • Review of Cooper S. Beckett's A Life Less Monogamous: Episode 5.
  • Interview with Cooper S. Beckett: Episode 8.

5.22 Book Review:

  • Books by the authors I've previously reviewed: Spanking for Lovers by Janet W. Hardy: Episode 4.
  • Written reviews of The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
  • The Multiamory hosts took over my show and did their own (quite excellent) reviews of The New Topping and The New Bottoming Books: Episode 7.
  • PolyMatchMaker.com--a dating website for poly people.
  • Take the OKCupid Ethical Slut Test and see how well you score on both Sluttiness and Ethicalness: here.

31.41 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be reviewing the first three volumes of Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Aug 12, 2016

Episode the Twenty-first; Wherein the Pageist has a big announcement, discovers a new way to know when you're really losing it and reviews Traversing Gender by Lee Harrington

.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • Welcome to our new Facebook member, Alice!
  • Two new survey responses, many thanks to them. If you'd like to take the listener survey to let me know what you think of the show, please go: here.

1.48 My Submissive Life:

  • The Pageist realizes a life-long dream.
  • Find out what double underpants crazy is. (It's the crazy that comes from planning an overseas move but is applicable to other types of high-pressure situations, as well.)

5.14 Book Review:

  • This episode's book is Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities by Lee Harrington. The book covers various types of transgender and gender nonconforming realities, as well as the ways in which allies, family, friends, lovers, health care professionals, law-makers as well as many others might be more open to those who express their gender in non-traditional ways.
  • Where I heard about the book--an outstanding interview with Lee and Graydancer from Gray's Ropecast: here.
  • Patton Oswalt talks about the difference between words and intent and how you have to 'listen to their heart': here.
  • My review of Tina Horn's Sexting: The Grownup's Little Book of Getting Dirty Digitally: Episode 15.
  • A slideshow of the transgender people killed thus far in 2016: The Advocate.
  • Norah Vincent's Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man: here.

30.10 Closing Remarks:

Aug 4, 2016

Episode the Twentieth; Wherein the Pageist gets productive in a geeky way, is all kinds of grateful to a particular bondage enthusiast, and speaks with a very nice lady about a great way to help incarcerated sex workers.

.50 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you to AliceinBondageland for sharing links to the podcast! Welcome to new listeners!
  • Listener survey--anonymous and brief and earns my undying gratitude: Podtrac survey

2.25 My Submissive Life:

  • Louis C.K. on why we should be thrilled and amazed we can fly at all: You Tube Link
  • The productivity app/game that allows you to level up for simply being an adult. It's a website and app: Habitica.com

8.24 Interview:

  • Today's interview was with Alex from SWOP Behind Bars (Sex Worker Outreach Project). Their goal is to help incarcerated sex workers learn their rights and improve their lives.
  • Their website: SWOPBehindBars.org
  • Email: swopbehindbars@gmail.com
  • Twitter: @SWOPBehindBars
  • Facebook: SWOP Behind Bars

33.19 Closing Remarks:

Jul 28, 2016

Episode the Nineteenth; Wherein the Pageist interviews the knowledgeable Nookie (also known as MsNN) about Female Led Relationships and much more.

0.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • In the previous episode I misgendered someone--I sincerely apologize to christian_red.

1.30 My Submissive Life:

  • Tits and Clits Comix: Wikipedia Link
  • Erotic Awakening, episode 402: BDSM for Introverts (on this page you'll need to find episode 402 in the player). Also available on iTunes.

3.36 Interview:

42.12 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be interviewing someone from the Sex Worker Outreach Project.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Jul 22, 2016

Episode the Eighteenth; Wherein The Pageist is utterly baffled by recent decisions made on the largest kink website in the world, Fetlife, and offers a solution.

0.50 Intro:

  • Ugh.
  • Fetlife has gone to invite-only rather than open registration.
  • Ugh.

1.05 Topic 1 Bad Idea is Bad:

6.29 Topic 2 Invites & Community:

11.50 Topic 3 Why I Do the Show & How Fet Is Involved:

  • Kink Fixed Me: An essay I wrote a few months after joining FL about the incredibly positive changes discovering BDSM had made in my life.
  • Perverted Podcast: The first podcast about kink I found. I highly recommend it.

22.08 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be interviewing Nookie, the author of many books, specifically how to run a Female Led Relationship.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Jul 19, 2016

 

Episode the Seventeenth; Wherein the Pageist learns the importance of sticking to her diet in her dotage, but doesn't allow ageing to dampen her love of coloring books. This week's book reviews are a trilogy of non-fiction books about Female Led Relationships by NookieNotes.

 

Intro and Announcements

Coloring book Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/983489211/butterflies-dragonflies-and-toadstools?ref=user_menu

Book Reviews

  • She Makes the Rules: Create the FLR (Female Led Relationship) of His and Her Dreams by Nookie. The first book in the series concerns the basics of FLRs. Why people may want one and how to begin building an FLR. She's careful to stress there doesn't have to be any kink involved.
  • She's in Control: A Guide to Finding and Developing Your Lover's Inner Domme by MsNN. This one is geared towards D/s relationships with a female in control and a male in the submissive role.
  • Slave to Her Whim: A Guide to Finding Your Passion and Freedom in Total Power Exchange by Nookie. As the title suggests, this one is aimed at people interested in M/s style relationships with a woman in charge. (The book is currently off Amazon for editing, but I'll add the link once it's available again.)
  • The author's Fet Profile is here.
  • Episode 13 of The Pageist, with a review of Paradigms of Power and a discussion of being an s-type without being submissive--a theory espoused by Dr Bob Reubel.
  • The People of Kink Episode 201: Approaching a Dominant with AliceinBondageland

Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be interviewing the author of this episode's books.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be great!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Jul 1, 2016

Episode the Sixteenth; Wherein the Pageist goes her own way whilst Britain attempts to do the same, (hopefully she'll have better luck). The topic is toxic masculinity and the messages that leads to rape culture and mass violence. Book reviews return next week.

 

Intro & Announcements:

Brock Turner (Toxic Masculinity & Rape Culture):

Omar Mateen (Homophobia & Misogyny):

Jun 26, 2016

Episode the Fifteenth, Wherein the Pageist shares her experiences of her first kinky conference and learns how to communicate her filthiest desires using the newest technology.

The book reviewed this episode is Tina Horn's Sexting: The Grownup's Little Book of Sex Tips for Getting Dirty Digitally. It's an excellent, straightforward, all-genders and orientations-inclusive guide to figuring out what you want in the bedroom and how to ask for and get it.

If you're kinky and you've ever wanted to give some communication tips to your vanilla friends--here's the way to do it. 

My Submissive Life:

Kevin and katie: http://www.kevinandkatie.net/

arcane's Attic: http://www.arcanesattic.com/ 

Email him at: arcane@arcanesattic.com

Manor Gear: http://manorgear.com/

Mr Malaprop: https://mmalapropdesign.wordpress.com/things-i-make/

Leather Passions: http://shopleatherpassions.com/

Page with photos of what I bought: http://thepageist.com/2016/06/15/recent-kinky-purchases-show-tell/

 

Book Review:

Sexting: The Grownup's Little Book of Sex Tips for Getting Dirty Digitally by Tina Horn: http://amzn.to/28XqQWB

Why Are People Into That?! podcast: http://whyarepeopleintothat.com/

Multiamory podcast on writing your profiles: http://www.multiamory.com/podcast/54-polyamory-and-online-dating

Private Photo Vault: https://privatephotovault.com/

Jun 10, 2016

Episode the Fourteenth; Wherein the Pageist celebrates another successful trip around the sun and also interviews the charming and intelligent Dr Gloria Brame.

 

Links:

http://gloriabrame.com/

Twitter: @DrGloriaBrame

Jun 6, 2016

Episode the Thirteenth; Wherein The Pageist discusses power exchange, what it means to her and even figures out what style makes the most sense for her life. (It was extremely obvious--the Pageist can be oblivious.)

The book reviewed is Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/slave Relationships edited by Raven Kaldera (http://amzn.to/20Y46X1), which is a collection of essays by people in a variety of power exchange relationships.

What I Mean When I Say She's Hot: Being Asexual and Kinky: http://thepageist.com/2015/11/05/being-asexual-and-kinky/

A Handful of Cinnamon: (The My Submissive Life segment in essay form): http://thepageist.com/2016/04/10/handful-cinnamon-power-exchange-kink-sex/

Erotic Awakening interview with Bob Rubel (episode 348): http://eroticawakening.libsyn.com/ea348-bdsm-culture

May 25, 2016

Episode the Twelfth wherein the Pageist is glad to be back. She talks about two sexy new maps in her life and two sexy books she's read.

The books reviewed in this episode are Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by Gloria Brame, William Brame and Jon Jacobs and Different Loving Too: Real People, Real Lives, Real BDSM by Dr Gloria Brame and William Brame.

The first was published in 1993 and was the first book to attempt to show what a wide array of kinksters got up to through interviews, quotes and historical context.

The second was published in 2015 and catches up with some of the original interviewees, but also canvasses newer players about practices and desires. The difference in the scene between the two books is remarkable.

 

LINKS

My new theme song comes from Count Boogie of Perverted Podcast: pervertedpodcast.com

The show's listener's map: http://www.travbuddy.com/maps/6928426

Podtrac Survey: http://www.podtrac.com/audience/start-survey.aspx?pubid=iPbbHhuqVWOI&ver=standard

Human Sex Map: http://thepageist.com/2016/03/13/my-sex-map/

Apr 24, 2016

Episode the Eleventh: Wherein The Pageist talks porn: lesbian porn, BDSM porn, porn for men... no book review this week, though, as she is preparing for a more involved episode about two books by Gloria Brame.

The Pageist Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/141222

Podcast & Radio Addict: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bambuna.podcastaddict&hl=en

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

A Couple of Kinks: http://acoupleofkinks.com/

Hole Punch Toys: http://www.holepunchtoys.com/shop/

Hey Epiphora: http://www.heyepiphora.com/2016/04/review-hole-punch-toys/

Episode 002 Playing Well with Others: http://thepageist.com/2016/01/12/episode-002-playing-well-and-nipples/

Lesbian Porn for Men vs Lesbian Porn for Lesbians: An Annotated List: http://thepageist.com/2015/07/05/lesbian-porn-for-men-vs-for-lesbians/

Oh Joy Sex Toy Crash Pad Review: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/crashpad/

Oh Joy Sex Toy Crash Pad Set Visit: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/porn-set-visit/

Porn for Men: http://thepageist.com/2015/11/08/porn-for-men/

Finding the Lesbians on Kink.comhttp://thepageist.com/2015/05/31/finding-the-lesbians-on-kink-com/

Apr 13, 2016

Episode the Tenth; wherein the Pageist invites everyone to her Fetlife group, meets her first human puppy and rethinks her entire philosophy of coming out. 

The book reviewed this episode was the mind-expanding Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection and Privacy by Jiz Lee, a collection of essays by 57 people involved in various aspects of the porn industry. Contributors ranged from decades-long members of the sex work industry to someone trying to break in and everything in-between. Sexualities and genders also vary widely. The stories are funny, philosophical, heartbreaking, infuriating and hopeful. 

PodTrac Survey: http://thepageist.com/podcast/

The Pageist Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/141222

The People of Kink guest hosted by The Pageist: http://thepeopleofkink.libsyn.com/tpok-175-the-pageist-interviewing-bodhi

The Cage: https://thecage.co

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

Erotic Awakening Episode 391 Daddy Grrl (includes sensual domination and sensual humiliation): http://eroticawakening.libsyn.com/ea391-daddy-grrl

Erotic Awakening Episode 376 Puppy Play with Sir Justin: http://eroticawakening.libsyn.com/ea376-puppy-play-with-sir-justin

ThreeL Media: http://threelmedia.com/

ThreeL Media books on Amazon:

Coming Out Like a Porn Star: http://www.amazon.com/Coming-Out-Like-Porn-Star/dp/0990557162/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-1&keywords=threel+media

Unshaven: Modern Women, Natural Bodies: http://www.amazon.com/Unshaven-Modern-Women-Natural-Bodies/dp/099055712X/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-2&keywords=threel+media

Carnal Anomaly: Transhuman Form and Flesh: http://www.amazon.com/Carnal-Anomaly-Transhuman-Form-Flesh/dp/0990557146/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-3&keywords=threel+media

Love Not Given Lightly: Profiles from the Edge of Sex: http://www.amazon.com/Love-Not-Given-Lightly-Profiles-ebook/dp/B00PSSK13K/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-4&keywords=threel+media

Tina Horn on Twitter: @tinahornsass 

Jon Millward Study of Names: http://jonmillward.com/blog/studies/deep-inside-a-study-of-10000-porn-stars/

 

Lily Cade on Cracked: http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-1816-6-things-you-learn-as-lesbian-porn-star.html

 

Lance Hart (Who doesn't have an essay in the book, but his piece on Cracked is great): http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-1386-5-reasons-being-male-porn-star-less-fun-than-it-looks.html

Mar 27, 2016

Episode the Ninth; Wherein the Pageist deals with some heavy irony and learns who her friends are, passes on some important information to her listeners and reviews books full of pretty paintings of kinky lesbians.

Book reviewed in this episode: Sunstone by Stjepan Sejic (pronounced Stephen). The first four volumes of the comic about Allison and Lisa, two women exploring kink together. One has a little more experience and a great deal of gear. The comics involves both of the women and the people important to their lives.

The series is still ongoing and is free-to-read on DeviantArt here: http://shiniez.deviantart.com/gallery/35675685/chapter-1-completed though I explain on the podcast why you may prefer the physical copies.

Listener Survey: http://www.podtrac.com/audience/start-survey.aspx?pubid=iPbbHhuqVWOI&ver=standard

The People of Kink: http://thepeopleofkink.libsyn.com/webpage

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

Mr Malaprop: https://mmalapropdesign.wordpress.com/things-i-make/

Bastard Ropes: http://bastardropes.com/

Get 10% off your books if you use the code pageist at alifelessmonogamous.com or mylifeontheswingset.com

 

HPV Information

CDC: http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm

American Cancer Society: http://www.cancer.org/cancer/cancercauses/othercarcinogens/infectiousagents/hpv/hpv-landing

Oh Joy Sex Toy by Erika Moen: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/hpv/

HPV and Cancer in the LGBT Community: http://www.cancer-network.org/cancer_information/hpv_and_cancer/

Information about HPV Duration: http://www.foundationforwomenscancer.org/questions-from-readers-hpv-duration/

Multiamory episode about STDs including HPV: http://www.multiamory.com/podcast/51-making-safe-sex-more-sexy

Perverted Podcast episode including segment on HPV: [as 32:50] https://soundcloud.com/perverted-podcast/show-41-super-villians-need-cuddles-too

My essay about HPV that includes a photo of little Jesus: http://thepageist.com/2016/03/17/good-news-bad-news-vice-versa/

Mar 16, 2016

Episode the Eighth Wherein The Pageist interviews Cooper S. Beckett, author of A Life Less Monogamous and My Life on the Swingset. Also, a new networking website for kinksters and a big thank you to Multiamory for guest hosting my show!

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

Podcast Survey: http://www.podtrac.com/audience/start-survey.aspx?pubid=iPbbHhuqVWOI&ver=standard

The Cage: https://thecage.co/main.php

Multiamory: http://multiamory.com/

You can get 10% off your copy of his books by using the code pageist on either http://mylifeontheswingset.com/ or http://alifelessmonogamous.com/

Check out his sites: http://coopersbeckett.com/ and http://www.lifeontheswingset.com/

Twitter: @coopersbeckett

Mar 9, 2016

It is a Mutiamory take over; reviewing the Topping Book and the Bottoming Book!

Find out more about Multiamory at http://www.multiamory.com


Ways to interact with The Pageist: 

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Mar 4, 2016
Episode the Sixth; in which The Pageist celebrates her first year being kinky, visits her first dungeon and almost envies *the* slave.
 
This episode's book review is The Slave by Laura Antoniou, the second book in the Marketplace series. 
Robin is a successful art buyer who has always been kinky and has always wanted more from her power exchanges than they could offer. A trainer for the Marketplace has mere weeks to get her ready for the biggest sale of the year. Does having a slave heart mean she has what it takes to be in the Marketplace?
 
LINKS!
 
Please, do me a favor and fill out the survey on this page of my site so I can learn more about you: thepageist.com/podcast
 
Laura Antoniou's shop: http://shop.lantoniou.com/

 

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/
 
I mentioned many shows from the EAPN: http://www.eroticawakeningpodcastnetwork.com/
 
As well as Perverted Podcast: http://pervertedpodcast.com/
Feb 22, 2016
Episode the Fifth; in which The Pageist discovers monogamy is neither for the characters in the novel she reads this week nor herself! She also discovers some fun sex toys and receives her first feedback.
 
 
This episode's book: A Life Less Monogamous by Cooper S. Beckett. Ryan and Jennifer Lambert are in a rut. A sex-free rut. Then they meet Paige and Bruce Shepard. The Shepard's are vibrant and vital. They're also swingers. They could be just what the Lamberts need to get their spark back. Or their relationship with the Shepards could destroy everything they have.
 
A Life Less Monogamous: http://www.amazon.com/Life-Less-Monogamous-novel-swinging/dp/1518685714/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8
 
Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/
 
Field of Corn sculptures because I could not make that up: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Field_of_Corn
 
Poly Isn't Hard: http://thepageist.com/2016/02/13/poly-isnt-hard-with-stephanie-stevens/
 
Perverted Podcast: http://pervertedpodcast.com/
 
Hole Punch Toys: http://www.holepunchtoys.com/
 
Life on the Swingset: http://www.lifeontheswingset.com/
 
Gasper Noe Love Review: http://thepageist.com/2016/02/12/gaspar-noes-love/
 
Meditations for submissives post: http://thepageist.com/2015/12/06/meditations-submissives-003/
 
Conversations with Spirits: http://www.amazon.com/Conversations-Spirits-E-O-Higgins-ebook/dp/B00WDP9HFO/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
Feb 11, 2016
Episode the Fourth. In which The Pageist registers for her first kinky conference, talks about why books are her BFFs and learns a whole dang bunch about spanking.
 
FetLife page for the Philly GRUE: https://fetlife.com/events/409748
 
Power Exchange Summit: https://fetlife.com/events/406976

Different Types of Spanking: http://rncblog.blogspot.com/2007/05/different-types-of-spanking.html

 

Jan 24, 2016
Episode the Third. In which The Pageist reads naughty fairy tales, reminds everyone that even Roman Emperors had to deal with complete nonsense and bids farewell to a true gentleman and artist, Mr Alan Rickman.
 
Links: 
 
FetLife link to Philly GRUE: https://fetlife.com/events/409748
 
RopeSpace: http://ropespace.com/
 
Oh Joy Sex Toy: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/
 
Anal Safety Snails Merchandise: http://tinyurl.com/zssv6v7
 
Closet Land: https://youtu.be/KVOe-akMQC0
 
 
 
Ways to interact with The Pageist: 
Jan 12, 2016

 

Episode the Second of The Pageist: In which there are Philadelphia GRUEs, etiquette lessons (in the form of a review of Playing Well with Others) and a humorous tale of ruining nipples for Danish people.

FetLife link to the Philadephia GRUE: https://fetlife.com/events/409748

Link to the Utne article "How to Write a Sex Scene": http://www.utne.com/arts/how-to-write-a-sex-scene.aspx

Dec 31, 2015
In the first episode of The Pageist, Paige introduces herself and the concept of the show, explains what a 'pageist' is, and gets straight into her first book review--the contemporary classic, Laura Antoniou's The Marketplace and includes an erotic excerpt. The episode is rounded out with a selection for submissives from Meditations by Marcus Aurelius about mindfulness.
 
Information mentioned in the show:
http://lantoniou.com/ : Laura Antoniou's website, where I got the wristband full of her books.
http://thepageist.com/2015/10/04/meditations-for-submissives-001/ : This is the text of the Meditations quote I talked about in the final section of the show.
 
Ways to interact with The Pageist: 
Dec 22, 2015

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