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The Pageist - BDSM & Sex-Positive Book Reviews

The Pageist is a podcast about books on BDSM and other forms of non-traditional sexual expression and relationships. Books reviewed include fiction, non-fiction and graphic novels; range from classics to contemporary works and feature topics like ethical non-monogamy, sex work, gender issues, kink and the science of sex. Authors, sex educators and experienced kinksters make occasional appearances, as well.
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Apr 19, 2018

Episode the eightieth; wherein the Pageist talks social media, depression and labels. The book reviewed is The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica edited by Rose Caraway.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • Patrons are keeping the show going so a big thank you to them.
  • Hello to Karen, Lara, Brad and Christopher over on Facebook. Also, goodbye to them, as I’m no longer on Facebook due to it’s creepy, non-consensual data practices.
  • Due to inactivity and in an effort to streamline my life, the Fetlife group for the site will be shutdown in the next week or so. If you’d like to be notified of episodes or posts, just subscribe to the website, using an rss feed reader or the subscription area in the sidebar (available on the desktop version of http://thepageist.com/). I neither sell nor share email addresses, so your information is safe with me.

3.55 My Submissive Life:

  • One of my half-brothers died a few days ago, but it’s really not a big deal–we weren’t close and never even lived in the same house.
  • I’m waiting for an appointment to get an official diagnosis of autism.

7.55 Book Review:

  • This episode’s book is The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica edited by Rose Caraway and kindly provided by Cleis Press.
  • This is twenty-two stories written in a variety of literary genres about primarily heterosexual people doing a vast array of kinks (though no edge play, really). The quality of the writing varied as wildly as the genres and kinks on offer, though, there were so many stories to choose from, even skipping a few (if you’re a pedant like I am) I still felt like I got my time’s worth.
  • Genres include, but are not limited to: science fiction, literary fiction, romance, and fantasy. I couldn’t even begin to list all of the kinks covered, for they are multiform.

16.52 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Asarotica, erotica by porn stars, edited by Asa Akira.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page.
Mar 26, 2018

Episode the seventy-ninth; wherein the Pageist talks reviewing sex toys with veteran wanker Epiphora of HeyEpiphora.com.

.43 Intro and Announcements:

  • Until the 31st of this month (March 2018) get 25% off when you use the code pageist at checkout on Circlet.com.
  • This episode was scheduled in advance for health reasons. So, no other announcements.

1.40 Interview:

1.02.05 Closing Remarks:

 

 

 

Mar 19, 2018

Episode the seventy-eighth, wherein the Pageist talks with author and poly person, Page Turner.

0.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • It’s the first episode of this month–thank you to all of my patrons. I appreciate your support! It’s vital to continuing doing what I do.
  • Big, squashy hugs to AliceinBondageLand for basically sponsoring this episode.
  • There’s still a couple week’s left to get 25% off using the code pageist at checkout over at Circlet.com ‘Erotica for geeks’. That code is good until the end of March.
  • Someone in Nicaragua listened to the show.
  • One survey response. If you’d like to take the survey (it’s anonymous and gives me useful info) you may do so here.

2.41 Interview:

  • Page Turner is an author and blogger who writes about the trials and triumphs of being ethically non-monogamous. We had a great time and got on splendidly.
  • I reviewed her first book, Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory in episode 68. The text of the book review is here.
  • Page wrote: Poly Land
  • And A Geek’s Guide to Unicorn Ranching
  • Jealousy Survival Guide by Kitty Chambliss
  • Inexcusable by Chris Lynch
  • Her website is Poly.Land
  • Facebook: PolydotLand
  • Twitter: @PolydotLand
  • Page joined me for a bonus interview about unicorn ranching (finding a third for your relationship) for the Mix Tape. Become a patron to access bonus content!

48.37 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Epiphora from HeyEpiphora.com.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
Feb 22, 2018

Episode the seventy-seventh; wherein the Pageist talks silicone sex toys–the process of making them and the hows, whats, and wherefores–with Kenton from Funkit Toys.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Use the code pageist and get 25% off on Circlet.com ‘Erotica for Geeks’. The code is good until the end of March.
  • They also have a current call for submissions for asexual romance, the particulars of which are here. Bookmark their calls for submissions page and keep up with what they’re looking for here.
  • New countries! Bosnia and Herzegovina, Puerto Rico, Morocco
  • There has been some correspondence from some very kind people–the show was called ‘delightfully nerdy’, which warmed my heart.

4.06 Interview:

1.17.05 Closing Remarks:

Feb 12, 2018

Episode the seventy-sixth; wherein the Pageist talks with writer and mental health advocate, JoEllen Notte about depression and relationships.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Welcome and hello to the newest Patron, Richard!
  • Someone left a comment about the show on the Podbean app. Thank you!
  • Round one of voting for Smut Marathon is open (until February 17).
  • Get 25% off by using the code pageist at Circlet.com (good until the end of March 2018).

3.30 Interview:

1.00.21 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Kenton from Funkit about silicone sex toys–how they’re made and what to look for.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
Feb 5, 2018

Episode the seventy-fifth, wherein the Pageist talks to Master Jon about books for a general audience that can benefit people into power exchange and a power exchange style based on the samurai code.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you and hello to the newest Patron, Stanton!
  • The show has been heard in Kazakhstan.
  • We have a new Facebook like–hello to Nickie!
  • Thank you in a big way to the survey responder. If you’d like to fill in the survey (it’s anonymous) you may do so here.

3.00 Interview:

  • Master Jon joins the show to talk about books written for a general audience that can benefit people interested in power exchange. We also discuss a power exchange style based on the samurai.
  • Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink
  • Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss
  • Ideals of the samurai: writings of Japanese warriors by William Wilson-Gregory Lee – Ohara, Black Belt Books – 1982
  • Bushido: the warrior’s code by Inazo Nitobe – Ohara Publications – 1983
  • The book of five rings by Musashi Miyamoto-William Wilson(tr) – Shambhala Publications – 2012
  • The Art of War by Sun Tzu -James Clavell(tr) – Delacorte Press – 1983
  • I also enjoyed Thomas Cleary’s translation of The Art of War
  • Analects by Confucius -Edward Slingerland(tr) – Hackett Pub. Co. – 2003
  • One small step can change your life: the kaizen way by Robert Maurer – Workman – 2004
  • On Fet: LifeLessOrdinary
  • He will also be teaching at Beyond Leather in Florida in April if you’d like to say hello.

42.53 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing JoEllen Notte about mental health and sexuality.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page.
Jan 28, 2018

Episode the seventy-fourth; wherein the Pageist gets a long-held peeve or two off her chest, is tired of being tired and asks people to just… ask. The book reviewed is Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • Circlet Press (‘Erotica for Geeks’) is offering 25% off if you use the code ‘pageist’ until the end of March.
  • One new Facebook like, hello and welcome to Dedria.
  • There have been a few survey responses. If you’d like to take the survey (it’s anonymous) you may do so here. It gives me lots of useful info about my listeners. Thank you!
  • A few people have reached out to say they’ve learned things from the show or they feel seen and that means a lot. Thank you. Thank you for letting me know.
  • Walter’s brain tumour isn’t responding to the medication the way we thought it was originally so they’re going to start radiotherapy soonish.
  • The website has been entirely rebuilt from scratch. Walter did it. 🙂

5.01 My Submissive Life:

  • A big ol’ rant about two pet peeves: cheese weasels who jump out and ‘scare’ people in order to get themselves knocked right out and ‘helpful’ souls who immediately bombard a person with images of their phobia that they’ve been misguided enough to share with their friends.
  • To both of those sorts of people: DON’T DO THAT.

11.46 Book Review:

  • This episode’s book is Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker.
  • The book contains twenty-two essays addressing how consent is (not) handled within the spheres of the bedroom, school, jail, workplace, home, hospital and community and proposes how we might improve communication skills in each of these areas, as well as some steps that are already being taken. Pieces come from an array of diverse and marginalised voices. This is a valuable, thought-provoking collection.
  • ConsentCulture.com
  • Consent Culture on Medium
  • JoEllen Notte
  • AV Flox
  • Navarre Overton
  • Takeallah Rivera
  • Jiz Lee
  • And many more I didn’t have the time to get to. I highly recommend this one.

29.41 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Master Jon about books written for a general audience that are useful for people interested in power exchange.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page.
Jan 19, 2018

Episode the seventy-third; wherein the Pageist talks sex toys–making them and the pros and cons of wood ones–with Richard Carver of Lumberjill.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • At the start of the third year of the show, a sincere thank you to my patrons and all of the show’s listeners.
  • Thank you to Joanna for the generous PayPal donation last month–it was enormously helpful.
  • If you use the code ‘pageist’ (without quotes) on Circlet.com you can get 25% off (offer good through the end of March 2018.

3.13 Interview

  • This episode’s interview is the first in a series with sex toy aficionados.
  • Richard Carver makes high quality sex toys, art pieces and 3D models by hand out of wood. Wood is light-weight, warms to body temperature quickly and can be used with condoms. It’s not easily sterilisable, however, so once you use it, it’s yours.
  • His work is available at SheVibe under the Lumberjill tag.
  • You can purchase directly from him, as well as make custom requests from his Etsy shop, Lumberjill.
  • There’s much more to see, as well as videos of his work on Instagram, where his handle is @lumberjill_leisurecrafts.
  • You can also follow him on Twitter: @ShouldaWooda
  • And support his work on Patreon: patreon.com/lumberjill
  • Richard also joined me for a few bonus questions, which will be part of the Mix Tape next month.

58.38 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing (really) Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page.
Dec 28, 2017

Episode the seventy-second; Wherein the Pageist reflects on the relationship between fantasy and reality and consults a passel of humans to write this episode’s book review. The book reviewed is The Cleis Press Sextionary.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Welcome to the newest Facebook person–Ashley!
  • Thank you to the survey-responder for your kind words. If you’d like to take the brief, anonymous survey, it gives me useful info and makes my day. The link is here.
  • The show has a new Patreon supporter! Hey there Bednar! Welcome and stuff!
  • There are many exciting things coming up in the new year–including a series of interviews about sex toys–how they’re made and what to look for in body safe products for yourself or someone you care about.

3.20 My Submissive Life:

  • Currently accepting applications for a Mom/Mum in the Oxford area who wants to take care of us. Walter and I are tired.
  • Our house nearly burned down on Christmas Eve. Thank goodness for smoke alarms. We’re moving when our lease is up. So the goal of 2018 is to build the business so we can afford a decent place and moving fees.

6.42 Book Review:

41.51 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page.
Dec 14, 2017

Episode the seventy-first; wherein the Pageist has some very good news, some potentially interesting news and gives her listeners the Bookshop Experience. This episode includes 30 mini book reviews.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • A big thank you to my patrons! You’ve kept my head afloat and my sanity intact this year.
  • There was one new iTune rating–it must have been five stars! Thank you!
  • There was one new survey response with some very kind feedback. Thank you, thank you. If you’d like to take the (anonymous) survey, the link is here and I curtsey in your general direction.

3.07 My Submissive Life:

  • Walter’s tumour is benign! He’s no longer on one hormone, but is on another at least for a bit.
  • I talked about the incredible things various hormones can do to a person in episode 61.

7.25 Book Review:

33.55 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing The Cleis Press Sextionary
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.

 

 

 

Nov 28, 2017

Episode the seventieth; wherein the Pageist tests new recording software for a bit, has a fun announcement and talks reviewing smut. The interview is with Gavin and Jackie from Red Light Library.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • The show is in Afghanistan, Fiji and Guatemala
  • One new Facebook like: Hello to Drew!
  • Thank you to Just Erik for the audio normaliser recommendation! If we all work together we’ll eventually get the interviews to a professional quality.
  • A post about the grand opening of the Pageist shop. And a link to said shop. If you’re not logged into Zazzle you won’t be able to see some of the designs, as they’re ‘adult’ since they’re tagged ‘bdsm’. Insert eyeroll here.
  • A few survey responses, which are valuable and sometimes confusing. If you’d like to be one of those things, you can take the survey here (it is anonymous).

4.37 Interview:

  • This week I interviewed the hosts of Red Light Library, Gavin and Jackie, about reviewing the weirdest, wackiest erotica out there. They are heroes, subjecting themselves to some seriously questionable writing and unconventional fetishes to find work worth discussing on their show. It was hilarious and filthy and I learned about a fetish I hadn’t heard of before.
  • Books and authors they recommend:
  • Captain Future and the Corn Dildo from Outer Space by Tabatha Houston
  • Daddy Longlegs by Brixton Atwood
  • Approaching the Swingularity by Cooper S. Beckett,
  • Bound to the Mast by Miranda Burns
  • Their most popular episode: Bloated Beach Bunny Butts – Molly Coddles available here.
  • Their twitter is @RedLightLibrary and their podcast is RedLightLibrary.libsyn.com
  • Support them on Patreon: Patreon.com/redlightlibrary

1.07.39 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing… We’ll all be surprised!
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
Nov 20, 2017

Episode the sixty-ninth; wherein the Pageist reveals why comedians are not to be trusted, despairs over technology and enthuses about the new shop. The book reviewed is 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you to Mark for recommending an alternative to Skype! Here’s to clearer interviews in future.
  • Several survey responses, which always makes my day. If you’d like to take the (brief, anonymous) survey, you may do so here.
  • The site’s old theme is no longer nice to look at on desktop so has been jettisoned for this one until Walter can build a new site from scratch. At least this is classy.
  • Our Zazzle shop is nearly ready to launch! Just in time for the shopping season.
  • Kate Lister (@WhoresofYore) is writing a book called A Curious History of Sex. You can help fund it here.

5.15 My Submissive Life:

  • Thanks to Arthur Chu (@arthur_affect) for reminding me of some things I had forgotten about comedy. One of his threads inspired this week’s segment.

11.24 Book Review:

  • This episode’s book is 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino. The precursor to her book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, which is for more experienced people, this one is an excellent beginner’s guide. Covering everything from common myths to how negotiation and contracts work to a wide array of actual kink practices succinctly, this one would also be a good choice for a vanilla person who was curious about what kinky people actually do.
  • Amy from Coffee & Kink talks about why 50 Shades branded materials are useful and important in this blog post.
  • AliceinBondageLand joined me to talk Chastity and orgasm control, which is covered in the book.

25.08 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing the hosts of Red Light Library about reviewing erotica.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
Nov 10, 2017

Episode the sixty-eighth; Wherein the Pageist tells the story of meeting her Ultimate Hero and also shares some good news. The book reviewed is Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • New listeners in the Faroe Islands, which was a brand new place to me and was fascinating! Welcome!
  • Two survey responses that I really needed to see–thank you! You can take the survey here and make my day, too!
  • Big squashy hugs to Joanna, my first PayPal donation person! Hey lady!
  • We’re working on the shop for the site, with the plan to launch it in the next week or so! Much excitement!

6.47 My Submissive Life:

  • This episode’s segment is about why I appreciate my listeners and why you shouldn’t meet your heroes.

16.48 Book Review:

  • This episode’s book is Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner.
  • It is creative non-fiction about the author’s journey from an unhappy, monogamous marriage, into her early years doing poly all the wrong ways–with some of the worst communicators ever to stalk creation. Hilarious and infuriating, it was highly entertaining, if an excellent example of what NOT to do. The book also includes useful information about ethical nonmonogamy.
  • I’ve never heckled a book before.
  • Check out the author’s site, which includes writing, quizzes and poly resources, Poly.Land.

23.52 Closing Remarks:

Nov 3, 2017

Episode the sixty-seventh; Wherein the Pageist believes in magic, but only the bad kind and finds a book that helps with life, emotions, the universe and everything. The book reviewed is Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy and Secure in an Open Relationship by Kitty Chambliss.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • The Patreon is a year old this month and a big thank you to my longest supporters: BeeTee, Nug, AuntieSocial and Beau Gest.
  • Also a huge welcome and thank you to the newest supporters: Aria, Formidable Femme and Just Erik.
  • One new Facebook like, howdy doo to Jared
  • TWO iTunes reviews–I’m spoilt! Thank you! It helps the show out immensely!
  • Two survey responses, sans comments, which is totally fine. If you’d like to take the survey, which is brief and anonymous and gives me useful demographic information, it is here.

3.27 My Submissive Life:

  • Magic is magic. I have to stop fearing the bad magic since I don’t believe in the good magic.

10.47 Book Review:

 

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  • This episode’s book is Kitty Chambliss’ outstanding Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy, and Secure in an Open Relationship.
  • Kitty Chambliss’ Jealousy Survival Guide is a slim volume, packed with information and worksheets useful for dealing with any toxic emotions (not only jealousy) that could threaten a person’s wellbeing—in or out of polyamorous relationships. Her expertise as a relationship and life coach is apparent—there is much wisdom contained in these pages. Wisdom and practicable knowledge. This is already a go-to resource I recommend to my listeners and anyone looking for advice on how to take control of the emotions that threaten their happiness.
  • The author was on the show a couple episodes ago and we had a fantastic time talking about jealousy and the various ways it’s viewed in our culture.
  • More resources and information about the author at lovingwithoutboundaries.com

22.33 Closing Remarks:

Oct 29, 2017

Episode the sixty-sixth; wherein the Pageist learns about all the things she’s not interested in, becomes increasingly weary over censorship and catches up on a few weeks of announcements. The book reviewed is Scary Stories to Tingle Your Butt: 7 Tales of Gay Terror by Chuck Tingle.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you to everyone who’s reached out and asked after Walter’s health! It means a lot and we both thank you.
  • Thank you so much to JT, for our first PayPal donation! It brightened my month, let me tell you.
  • Big thank yous to my Patreon supporters and welcome to the newest supporter.
  • The show how now been heard in Zimbabwe.
  • One survey response–thank you! You can take the survey here (it’s anonymous and makes my day).
  • Someone rated the show on iTunes!! WOW! Thank you!
  • The show will be in the next update of the SwingsetFM Podcast Network app for Android (available through GooglePlay)

5.53 My Submissive Life:

16.21 Book Review:

  • This episode’s book is Scary Stories to Tingle Your Butt: 7 Tales of Gay Terror by Chuck Tingle. It’s… something else. In a genre of its own. A mix of comedy, meta-fiction, erotica, all in a universe where unicorns, dinosaurs and Bigfeet (that’s the plural of Bigfoot) live amongst the rest of us. Oh yeah, there are also sentient buses. Like, the ones you ride around. Anything can happen. Anything. States can stalk people. The state of California, for example. And it makes sense in the context of the story.
  • Hilarious, utterly unique, filthy, with the occasional cutting social commentary, no one else writes like Chuck Tingle.
  • And the dialogue! Everything about it is singular.

29.08 Closing Remarks:

Oct 21, 2017

Episode the sixty-fifth; Wherein the Pageist has an utterly delightful chat with the unspeakably exuberant Kitty Chambliss about jealousy in non-monogamous relationships and how to deal with it.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • Still no announcements because this intro was recorded very early in preparation for my husband’s brain tumour surgery.

4.11 Interview:

41.05 Closing Remarks:

Oct 13, 2017

Episode the sixty-fourth; wherein the Pageist learns a whole bunch about chastity from show favourite AliceinBondageLand.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • This episode was scheduled several days ahead in preparation for Walter’s biopsy, so no announcements. I’ll catch up on those in a few weeks.

3.29 Interview:

  • AliceinBondageLand joins the show for the third time! YAY! This time we’re discussing chastity, which is the eroticization of not being allowed to touch your naughty bits.
  • This was a first in that she asked people for questions on other platforms (Reddit and Twitter) and so answered not only my questions, but also questions from people who practise chastity or are curious about trying it. We got into health and hygiene as well as safety and the motivation behind chastity play. Also, how to do it as a single person vs in a couple.
  • Santa Clara County Leather Week 2017
  • Recommended sites to find toys for prostate toys:
    NJoy
    Aneros
  • Shops Alice recommends for luxury chastity devices:
    Steelwerks
    Latowski
    MatureMetal
  • For cock pumps, Alice recommends going over to MedicalToys.com.
  • A popular device is the CB6000, though it wasn’t recommended from any particular shop.
  • Alice has previously been on the show to talk about FemDom and what she loves about what she does and Female Led Relationships. She’ll be back to talk about all sorts of other goodness in the future.
  • You can find Alice on Twitter @BondageLand
  • Her website is AliceinBondageLand.com
  • On Fetlife she’s GoAskAlice
  • On instagram just look for @aliceinbondageland
  • Alice’s flowchart for choosing a Chastity Device is on the show's homepage here.

1.37.56 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Kitty Chambliss, relationship coach and author, about dealing with jealousy in ethically non-monogamous relationships.
  • Support the show through PayPal!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
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  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
Oct 9, 2017

Episode the sixty-third; wherein the Pageist has an update about Walter’s diagnosis, announces a new way to support the show, and laments why we can’t have nice things. The book reviewed is Witches, Princesses, and Women at Arms edited by Sacchi Green.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you to all of my patrons for making the show possible and welcome to the newest patron, Alice!
  • Two new Facebook follows: howdy doo to Becca and Tawnya.
  • The newest country to hear the show is Angola.
  • Several responses to the survey, with some useful comments. Thank you!
  • Walter’s brain tumour is playing silly buggers and I don’t know how it will effect the schedule for the rest of the month.
  • The show and site finally has PayPal capabilities!!

8.32 My Submissive Life:

  • Everything is disappointing and it’s disappointing. How hard is it to not be a kink-shaming, homophobic, racist, transphobic, etc jerk?
  • Apparently, very, very hard.
  • Nie on impossible.
  • Ugh.

13.31 Book Review:

  • This episode’s book is Witches, Princesses, and Women at Arms: Erotic Lesbian Fairy Tales edited by Sacchi Green and published by Cleis Press.
  • The book is a collection of thirteen stories–some retellings of classic tales, some new stories with an aura of fantasy–with a feminine slant. The titular roles are represented most frequently, but there are also trolls and dryads and even a particular Wicked Stepmother we all know and (possibly) love.
  • If you’re looking for a more pansexual, kinky version of fairy tales, I highly recommend Leather Ever After. The text of the book review is here.
  • The Red Light Library: A sex-positive podcast for reviewing the best/weirdest/worst erotica up for sale. We celebrate kink and shame manipulative hack writers every Wednesday. Their Patreon. Their Twitter.
  • The Sexy Section is from ‘Trollwise’ by Sacchi Green.

22.36 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing show favourite AliceinBondageland about chastity.
  • Support the show and site on Patreon!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
Sep 22, 2017

Episode the sixty-second; wherein the Pageist discusses consent, feminism and just why so much erotic writing is so bad with author Sinclair Sexsmith.

.43 Intro and Announcements:

  • I’ll be teaching a class on lucid dreaming for otherwise impossible sexual fantasies at Eroticon in March! My bio will eventually appear on this page.
  • From the endlessly wonderful Reid Mihalko, I won a ticket to next year’s Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, which I will hopefully get to attend (dependant upon finding a sponsor for airfare/lodging).

2.27 Interview:

43.07 Closing Remarks:

Sep 17, 2017

Episode the sixty-first; wherein the Pageist marvels at the wonders of hormones and 3D model clitorises. The book reviewed is Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut by Sinclair Sexsmith.

.44 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you to all of my patrons–you make the show happen! Mwah!
  • Big, huge hugs to the newest supporter, Dedria!
  • Two new Facebook likes, from Kitty and E, welcome to the group!
  • The show is now in Bahrain, Belarus and Ecuador.
  • Someone took the survey and had very kind things to say–if you’d like to fill in the survey, the link is here.
  • If you haven’t checked out the BDSM community The Cage–it’s growing. Give it a look.

4.09 My Submissive Life:

  • My 3D model of a clitoris from Lumberjill a.k.a. Shoulda Wooda arrived and I love it! Check out the Etsy shop here. See more of his work on his Instagram.
  • For an incredibly informative slide show on how genitals are formed in the womb click this link. Thank you to Sinclair Sexsmith for that link!

9.48 Book Review:

  • This episode’s book is Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut by Sinclair Sexsmith, which is a collection of short, very sexy, very well-written pieces of erotic fiction featuring butch/femme relations and packing scenarios.
  • ‘Packing’ is when a female-bodied person wears a dildo–either soft or hard–in a harness as they go about their day. This collection explores gender and celebrates the female form.
  • Sinclair did a bonus interview for my Patreon subscribers about packing–what it is, why people are into it and so forth. It’s available here.
  • Sinclair’s Patreon is here. Their blog is sugarbutch.net and has some great writing. Fiction and non-fiction.
  • You can get the book from here. Or by supporting Sinclair’s Patreon.

16.35 Sexy Section:

  • The section this episode is about a strap on blow job. It’s the short, short piece from this week’s book ‘Her Mouth on My Cock’.

19.45 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing the author of today’s book, Sinclair Sexsmith!
  • Support the show and site on Patreon!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
Aug 24, 2017

Episode the Sixtieth; wherein the Pageist talks with Mike Merrill, the publicly-traded guy about power exchange, allowing strangers to make his life decisions and not filming porn.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • One new Facebook like: Hello to Grayson.
  • Two new survey responses. Thank you! You can take the survey here.

2.18 Interview:

  • In this episode I speak with Mike Merrill, the world’s only publicly traded, private individual. We discuss power exchange, including the ways traditional, negotiated power exchange can benefit vanilla relationships, as well as how he decided to allow strangers on the internet to make life decisions for him.
  • His main website is kmikeym.com if you’d like to buy shares or see what that’s about.
  • The Kickstarter for the book is here.
  • There’s also a website about the book’s project, Publicly Traded, Privately Held.
  • His Twitter is @KMikeyM

53.45 Closing Remarks:

Aug 17, 2017

Episode the fifty-ninth; wherein the Pageist talks with author and spanking enthusiast Jillian Keenan about spanking, Shakespeare, consent and all sorts of other things.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Hello and a big welcome to the new Patreon supporter, Devan!
  • Angola, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Belize
  • Jim liked the Facebook page. Hiiiiii, Jim!
  • Two very positive survey responses–thank you! You can take the quick, anonymous survey about the show here.

4.01 Interview:

  • Jillian Keenan is a freelance journalist, author of Sex with Shakespeare, spanking enthusiast and children’s rights advocate.
  • I reviewed Sex with Shakespeare in episode 42. The text of the book review is here.
  • You can find her on Twitter: @jilliankeenan
  • Her website is jilliannyc.com
  • Her interview with Tina Horn on Why Are People Into That?! on spanking is here.

46.15 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Mike Merrill, the publicly-traded guy.
  • Support the show and site on Patreon!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
 
Aug 10, 2017

Episode the fifty-eighth; Wherein the Pageist returns from an unplanned break with a revolutionary idea about what to do with all the unsolicited peen going around and remembers that morality is highly subjective. The books reviewed this episode are Bonjour Tristesse and A Certain Smile by Francoise Sagan.

Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you, everyone for the kind words regarding Walter’s brain tumour. His treatment is going well.
  • Especially thank you to Naiia.
  • Thank you to the Patreon patrons who stuck with me even though I didn’t post anything last month and didn’t get rewards out until the end of the month. You’re all rock stars.
  • Hello and welcome to the show’s newest supporters, ItGoesto11, who also sent one of the loveliest notes, and M and Keith.
  • Huge thank yous to Beau Gest for the Kindle paperwhite and the permission to return it since it was the second one–the return will fund most of a new microphone, which will be enormously helpful. Also in that shipment was a copy of Jay Wiseman’s SM 101, which I’m very much looking forward to.
  • New Facebook likes include Kasia and Eleanor.
  • New countries include Slovenia, Armenia, Uganda and the U.S. Virgin Islands.
  • There were six survey responses! Oh boy! If you’d like to respond to the survey (it is quick and anonymous), you may do so here.
  • Later this month I’ll be interviewing Mike Merrill, the publicly traded individual. His website is KMikeyM.com.

My Submissive Life:

  • It feels like a million years ago, but it was episode 56 where I talked about Sarah Benincasa.
  • This is her Instagram. This is the photo that kicked off the entire WikiDicks conversation.

Book Reviews:

Bonjour Tristesse and A Certain Smile book cover

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  • This episode’s books are two novels by Francoise Sagan, both of which were in one volume by Penguin Modern Classics. The first is Bonjour Tristesse, which is about a mercurial young woman who plots to break up her widower father from his new relationship, even though she’s quite taken with the woman.
  • The second was A Certain Smile, which follows the affair from start to finish between a young woman and older man, while the younger woman is quite fond of the wife of the man she’s involved with.
  • Both were delicate, well-written, must less explicit than what I usually review on the show, explorations of the inner world of a young woman. The first book was published when the author was eighteen (in 1954), the second when the author was twenty (in 1956). Both are a reminder that what is considered immoral and scandalous at one time hardly raises an eyebrow in another.

Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing … someone. A few options are possible.
  • Support the show and site on Patreon!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
 
Jun 29, 2017

Episode the Fifty-Seventh; Wherein the Pageist welcomes Cooper S. Beckett back to the show and they talk about his newest book, Approaching the Swingularity, as well as pegging, male bisexuality and more.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you for all the kind wishes about Walter’s health. He’s doing well and is mostly bored at the moment.
  • An extra thank you to GentleEnglishman for ordering the Kindle from my wishlist! MWAH!
  • GentleEnglishman also got Sex with Shakespeare for me, which was great and I reviewed in episode 42.

1.57 Interview:

57.57 Closing Remarks:

Jun 22, 2017

Episode the fifty-sixth; Wherein the Pageist has a big, scary announcement and offers up two very brief book reviews.

.45 Intro and Announcements:

  • Listeners in new countries–the Bahamas, Hungary and Lithuania.
  • Swingset.fm is a swanky bunch of shows–check it out. Eventually I’ll be over there, technology cooperating.
  • Thank you to my Patreon supporters for making this episode possible!

2.53 My Submissive Life:

  • My husband has been diagnosed with a brain tumour. Treatment begins on Monday, but the show may be a bit different (more interviews and fiction reviews) for a bit.
  • Thank the heavens for the NHS.

6.50 Book Review:

In this episode, two very short book reviews:
Real Artists Have Day Jobs Sara Benincasa

11.04 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing either a fiction title or interviewing Cooper S. Beckett. Time will tell.
  • Support the show and site on Patreon!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader.
  • All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page.
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