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The Pageist - BDSM & Sex-Positive Book Reviews

The Pageist is a podcast about books on BDSM and other forms of non-traditional sexual expression and relationships. Including fiction, non-fiction and graphic novels; from the classics to contemporary works and featuring topics from ethical non-monogamy to sex work to gender issues to kink to the science of sex.
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Dec 1, 2016

Episode the Thirty-third; Wherein the Pageist thanks her first Patrons and talks porn with Dr David Ley.

.48 Intro & Announcements:

  • The show is in Turkey.
  • Thank you to my first patrons: BeeTee, deebs, Nug, Peej and PC!

2.06 Interview:

  • Dr David Ley, clinical psychologist and author of books about the myths of sex addiction and porn addiction.
  • Last week I reviewed his incredible Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure.
  • Twitter account: @DrDavidLey
  • Amazon author page

55.21 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities by David M. Ortmann and Richard A. Sprott
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Nov 25, 2016

Episode the Thirty-Second; Wherein the Pageist deals with misogynistic British people, revamps her website as a service to the community and learns all sorts of interesting things about porn. The book reviewed is Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by Dr David Ley.

.49 Intro and Announcements:

  • The show is in Botswana and Laos. Yippee!
  • The Patreon site now has an intro video. It was super hard to make so check it out, please.

5.12 My Submissive Life:

13.08 Book Review:

  • Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by Dr David Ley. In under 250 pages, Dr Ley debunks common myths regarding porn and its use including adverse effects on a person’s mental, physical and sexual health. Accessible and humorous, this has something for porn consumers, partners of those who consume porn, and people who want to be more ethical in their consumption.
    Other topics covered are the differences between male and female sexuality and the way they’re viewed in our culture and various strategies for dealing with any problems a person may have with their own porn use.
  • Dr David Ley’s page on Psychology Today
  • Dr David Ley’s Twitter (which it’s great): @DrDavidLey

23.00 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing the author of this episode’s book, Dr David Ley!
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Nov 18, 2016

Episode the Thirty-first; Wherein the Pageist finds some femmecocks, tries to find sexuality in England and discovers her cross gender self. The book reviewed this episode is Miss Vera’s Cross Gender Fun for All.

.48 Intro & Announcements:

  • Thank you to my pioneer Patrons! You will always have a special place in my heart. The link to the Pageist Patreon page is here.
  • I’ve been mispronouncing Laura Antoniou’s name. Whoops.
  • Artemisia FemmeCock’s website: For all your strap-on yet feminine needs and questions.
  • Sugarbutch.net: Sinclair Sexsmith’s website–so many amazing words! Fiction and non-fiction. Give it a look, you won’t regret it. Sinclair wrote one of my fav stories from the book in episode three.

6.40 My Submissive Life:

  • English booksellers shelve ‘sexuality’ under ‘gender studies’. But not really. Even in the Norrington Room, the largest room of books for sale in the world.

12.32 Book Review:

31.32 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by Dr David Ley
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Nov 12, 2016

Episode the Thirtieth: Wherein the Pageist offers commiserations and support to those affected by the recent election and discusses outing as consent violation. The book reviewed is My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging and Polyamory by Cooper S. Beckett.

.49 Intro & Announcements:

  • Four new Facebook likes. Welcome to Cimmie, Sarah and Lara.
  • The show is in Cyprus.
  • The show’s Patreon has launched! Check out the page here for the goals you can help me reach and available perks to patrons.
  • An article from Fader on #Translawhelp (created by @dtwps) to help people in the trans community get legal documents before Drumpf takes office. Lawyers across the U.S. are offering free legal services.
  • Transgender suicide hotline: 1 877 565 8860
  • LGBTQ+ Hotline: 1 866 488 7386
  • Suicide Hotline: 1 800 273 8255
  • Organisations that will fight the incoming administration:
  • ACLU
  • NAACP
  • Matthew Shepard Foundation
  • RAINN
  • The National LGBTQ Task Force

7.30 My Submissive Life:

14.00 Book Review:

28.00 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Miss Vera’s Cross Gender Fun for All by Dr Veronica Vera
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Nov 4, 2016

Episode the Twenty-Ninth; Wherein the Pageist gets philosophical then pornographic and keeps a sexy promise. The book reviewed is My Dad Wrote a Porno.

.48 Intro and Announcements:

  • Three new Facebook likes–all anonymous. Welcome!
  • Welcome also to new listeners in Algeria, Colombia, Egypt and Jordan.
  • My iTunes reviews seem to have disappeared. Are they still in the U.S. store? If you understand how this works, contact me at thepageist@gmail.com
  • One new survey result. Make my day and take the survey here. It’s anonymous and gives me happy wiggles.
  • Dragonflies, Butterflies and Toadstools an incredible colouring book by katie Casey arrived. I first mentioned it in episode 17. The Facebook Group is here with videos and finished pieces. The full-sized version can be purchased here and the pocket-sized here.
  • Gespensts Fantasy Gear is an Etsy Shop of handmade toys for the grown ups. Quality stuff and custom orders. Also, some unusual things on offer. The shop is closing at the end of December so check it out while you can.
  • The Cage. Forums, a magazine section, blogs, classified, a podcast section and two themes to choose from. It’s relatively new, but the membership is growing–now is the time to get the username you want. (And the owners listen to recommendations from members.)

8.33 My Submissive Life:

  • This episode’s My Submissive Life is brought to you by materialism.

15.45 Book Review:

27.41 Sexy Segment:

  • The sexy segment comes from Laura Antoniou’s The Trainer, which I reviewed in episode 25, but didn’t have time to read.

42.15 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging and Polyamory by Cooper S. Beckett
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Oct 26, 2016

Episode the Twenty-Eighth; Wherein the Pageist explores the good, the bad and the sexy things that happen when kink is portrayed on film.

.49 Intro & Announcements:

4.29 Part 1: Representation & Getting the Bad Out of the Way:

(Apologies to the filmmakers for calling your work bad)

11.42 Part 2: 50 Shades of Bullshit–What all media gets wrong about kink

  • Secretary (recap/review–spoilers be here!)

17.24 Part 3: The Good & the Sexy

25.00 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing either My Dad Wrote a Porno or My Life on the Swingset.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Oct 19, 2016

Episode the Twenty-Seventh; Wherein the pageist settles into her new home, adapts to a new way of life and learns all about Leather in all its forms. The book reviewed this episode is Life, Leather and the Pursuit of Happiness: Life, History and Culture in the Leather/BDSM/Fetish Community by Steve Lenius.

.51 Intro and Announcements:

  • An FB like from Jeff! Also a super nice thing from a service oriented submissive who wishes there were more episodes of the show. I’m working on it and have no plans to go anywhere any time soon.
  • A survey response from a very kind listener. The anonymous survey can be taken here.
  • The show now has listeners in Iran and Kuwait.

5.12 My Submissive Life:

  • The March 13, 2016 Ropecast episode where Gray discussed educational opportunities, as well as why having experience doesn’t make one impervious to mistakes is somewhere on iTunes and other places where podcasts are available. Apologies for not being able to link to it.
  • See if there is a GRUE (Graydancer’s Rope Unconference Extravaganza) coming to a city near you here.
  • The My Dad Wrote a Porno podcast has been keeping us entertained while unpacking. Find my review of ithere.
    If you’d like to order the book the cast has written, the link is here.

12.11 Review:

  • Life, Leather and the Pursuit of Happiness by Steve Lenius. A collection of essays, reviews and articles by the author from Lavender magazine and other places, concerning Leather, BDSM and fetish culture. It’s an excellent resource for anyone curious about the history of the lifestyle and the way it’s evolving.
  • The accompanying website, Life, Leather, Pursuit is here
  • Two links to Robert Bienvenu’s doctoral thesis will appear on thepageist.com when I can locate them. There’s a physical version at the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago if you’d like to visit it in person, though.

31.13 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be talking about Kink in Film: The good, the bad and the sexy.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Oct 6, 2016

Episode the Twenty-Sixth; In which the Pageist settles in to her new country, learns why people are into playing with taboo and becomes more comfortable with her little side. The books reviewed this episode are The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo by Mollena Williams and The Toybag Guide to Age Play by Lee ‘Bridgett’ Harrington.

.50 Intro and Announcements:

  • Facebook likes! Welcome to Rylie, Aurora and Angie. Mwah! Mwah!
  • Thank you to the person who filled in the PodTrac survey and the very kind words. For anyone who’d like to contribute a few minutes of your time to a good, anonymous cause of making my day: the survey is here.
  • Someone left a rating and review on iTunes! Happy gasps all round! Thank you, friend. <3
  • The show is in DRC and Luxembourg. We’re taking over the world! (Incrementally.)

3.24 My Submissive Life:

  • In the upcoming weeks I’ll be appearing on Lee Harrington’s show PassionandSoul, which you can find here.
  • AliceinBondageLand will be appearing on this show. Her site is here. And I talked about her site and what she does in episode 17. Find the link here.
  • Also, I’ll be making an appearance on another show, hopefully. Stay tuned for that announcement.
  • Tina Horn interviewed Mollena Williams in an excellent two-part What Are People Into That?! podcast. For the life of me I cannot find a link to the episode, but it’s on iTunes–it’s episode 2. It’s titled 2A: Mollena Williams: Role Play, though they talk about many other things besides role play, including taboo.

6.59 Book Reviews:

  • Previously reviewed Playing Well with Others by both Mollena Williams and Lee Harrington in episode 2, which is here.
  • And both Mollena and Lee were short story contributors to Leather Ever After, an anthology of kinky fairy tales, which I reviewed in episode 3. That’s here.
  • Mollena’s website, The Perverted Negress: here.
  • You can follow Lee on Twitter: @PassionandSoul: here.
  • Sex Nerd Sandra on Perverted Podcast and the age play party from hell. Here.

30.10 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be talking about Life, Leather and the Pursuit of Happiness by Steve Lenius.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Sep 16, 2016

Episode the twenty-fifth; wherein the Pageist returns to the Marketplace for the third time to learn how trainers become trainers. Also, a note from a fan and show developments.

.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • Welcome to new listeners in Venezuela! And the new Facebook friend Lexi!
  • Thank you to the person who contacted me through Tumblr. To answer your question, there are several ways to help the show, including:
  • Spreading the word to people at your local munch/dungeon or online,
  • Leaving a positive review on iTunes
  • Sponsoring the show (or sending someone my way who might be interested in doing so)
  • Supporting the upcoming Patreon or Zazzle shop.
  • The Cage is a social networking site that includes blogs, a magazine, a podcast section, forums and all sorts of other things. Registration is open and free. Check out the link here.
  • I happened across Consensual Dominance this week–it’s a blog written by someone who clearly knows a thing or two. The posts are well-written and covers a variety of kink-related topics. Check that out here.
  • I don’t know when the next episode of the show will be due to moving craziness. Definitely not next week. Perhaps the week after? Or the week after that? Hopefully it won’t be a month from now, but I am not leaving you for good just until I have a place I can sit and talk naughty things in peace.

5.52 Book Review:

  • This episode’s review is of The Trainer, the third book in the Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou.
  • I reviewed the first book, The Marketplace, in episode one, here.
  • The second book, The Slave, was in episode six, here.
  • The Marketplace is a secret, international organization that trains people who wish to be 24/7 slaves in the truest sense and then sells them to the highest bidder. That’s the short version–it’s much more complex than that. And sexy. Each book focuses on a different aspect of the organization. The third book is about how trainers (the people who teach slaves how to be proper slaves worthy of the Marketplace) become trainers. And it ain’t easy.

Excerpt:

  • Normally I would read a sexy excerpt from the book, but there’s no time. I’m saving it for another episode. I promise–you’ll get your smut.

13.36 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be talking about… I don’t know. Either: kink in films: the good, the bad and the sexy; a review of Life, Leather and the Pursuit of Happiness; a review of two Toybag Guides or something else entirely.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Sep 8, 2016

Episode the twenty-fourth; wherein the Pageist talks with author, educator and instigator Lee Harrington.

.50 Intro & Announcements

1.48 Interview:

  • Lee co-wrote Playing Well with Others with Mollena Williams, which I reviewed in episode 2: here.
  • The book we’re discussing today is Traversing Gender, which I reviewed in episode 21: here.
  • Listen to Lee’s excellent interview with MonsignorX on Passion and Soul: here.
  • Lee’s website: PassionandSoul.com
  • On Twitter: @passionandsoul
  • The official website for Traversing Gender is: here. It has a large number of resources for transgender and gender nonconforming people, as well as a place to recommend resources.

48.40 Outtake:

  • A bonus bit about kink in Alaska from our pre-interview conversation

53.53 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be reviewing the third book in Laura Antoniou’s Marketplace series, The Trainer.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Sep 1, 2016

Episode the twenty-third; Wherein the Pageist explores a new app for kinksters, laughs until she cries at a podcast and develops some new ideas for sadistic roleplay. The books reviewed this episode are the first three volumes of the comic Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky.

.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • The show is in Estonia and Nepal.
  • Welcome to the newest Facebook fan, Alice!
  • I’ve tried out a new app called Kinkd (it doesn’t seem to have a website, sorry), but I do like the app.
  • The podcast My Dad Wrote a Porno has been keeping Walter and I very entertained. The website is here. The podcast is on iTunes and probably Android somewhere, and can also be heard here.
  • Pre-order the book here.

4.45 My Submissive Life:

  • The move date approaches!
  • I get cozy with my inner sadist and ponder the ways our various kink roles are intrinsic to who we are.

7.57 Book Review:

  • This episode, the books are the first three volumes of Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky, which is about two people who stop time when they orgasm. They use this power to rob banks.
  • More information about the television series in the works: here.

17.06 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Lee Harrington, author, educator and host of Passion and Soul.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Aug 25, 2016

Episode the Twenty-Second; Wherein the Pageist tries a new app designed for kinksters, discovers a podcast for sexy thinkers and learns to be ethically slutty.

The book reviewed this episode is The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • Welcome to the new listener in Latvia!
  • Thank you to the new survey-taker. Mwah! Mwah!

1.35 My Submissive Life:

  • I tested the KNKI app. Their website is: here.
  • Also, Intellectual Foreplay is a new favorite podcast. Check them out here.
  • Review of Cooper S. Beckett's A Life Less Monogamous: Episode 5.
  • Interview with Cooper S. Beckett: Episode 8.

5.22 Book Review:

  • Books by the authors I've previously reviewed: Spanking for Lovers by Janet W. Hardy: Episode 4.
  • Written reviews of The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
  • The Multiamory hosts took over my show and did their own (quite excellent) reviews of The New Topping and The New Bottoming Books: Episode 7.
  • PolyMatchMaker.com--a dating website for poly people.
  • Take the OKCupid Ethical Slut Test and see how well you score on both Sluttiness and Ethicalness: here.

31.41 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be reviewing the first three volumes of Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Aug 12, 2016

Episode the Twenty-first; Wherein the Pageist has a big announcement, discovers a new way to know when you're really losing it and reviews Traversing Gender by Lee Harrington

.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • Welcome to our new Facebook member, Alice!
  • Two new survey responses, many thanks to them. If you'd like to take the listener survey to let me know what you think of the show, please go: here.

1.48 My Submissive Life:

  • The Pageist realizes a life-long dream.
  • Find out what double underpants crazy is. (It's the crazy that comes from planning an overseas move but is applicable to other types of high-pressure situations, as well.)

5.14 Book Review:

  • This episode's book is Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities by Lee Harrington. The book covers various types of transgender and gender nonconforming realities, as well as the ways in which allies, family, friends, lovers, health care professionals, law-makers as well as many others might be more open to those who express their gender in non-traditional ways.
  • Where I heard about the book--an outstanding interview with Lee and Graydancer from Gray's Ropecast: here.
  • Patton Oswalt talks about the difference between words and intent and how you have to 'listen to their heart': here.
  • My review of Tina Horn's Sexting: The Grownup's Little Book of Getting Dirty Digitally: Episode 15.
  • A slideshow of the transgender people killed thus far in 2016: The Advocate.
  • Norah Vincent's Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man: here.

30.10 Closing Remarks:

Aug 4, 2016

Episode the Twentieth; Wherein the Pageist gets productive in a geeky way, is all kinds of grateful to a particular bondage enthusiast, and speaks with a very nice lady about a great way to help incarcerated sex workers.

.50 Intro and Announcements:

  • Thank you to AliceinBondageland for sharing links to the podcast! Welcome to new listeners!
  • Listener survey--anonymous and brief and earns my undying gratitude: Podtrac survey

2.25 My Submissive Life:

  • Louis C.K. on why we should be thrilled and amazed we can fly at all: You Tube Link
  • The productivity app/game that allows you to level up for simply being an adult. It's a website and app: Habitica.com

8.24 Interview:

  • Today's interview was with Alex from SWOP Behind Bars (Sex Worker Outreach Project). Their goal is to help incarcerated sex workers learn their rights and improve their lives.
  • Their website: SWOPBehindBars.org
  • Email: swopbehindbars@gmail.com
  • Twitter: @SWOPBehindBars
  • Facebook: SWOP Behind Bars

33.19 Closing Remarks:

Jul 28, 2016

Episode the Nineteenth; Wherein the Pageist interviews the knowledgeable Nookie (also known as MsNN) about Female Led Relationships and much more.

0.50 Intro & Announcements:

  • In the previous episode I misgendered someone--I sincerely apologize to christian_red.

1.30 My Submissive Life:

  • Tits and Clits Comix: Wikipedia Link
  • Erotic Awakening, episode 402: BDSM for Introverts (on this page you'll need to find episode 402 in the player). Also available on iTunes.

3.36 Interview:

42.12 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be interviewing someone from the Sex Worker Outreach Project.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Jul 22, 2016

Episode the Eighteenth; Wherein The Pageist is utterly baffled by recent decisions made on the largest kink website in the world, Fetlife, and offers a solution.

0.50 Intro:

  • Ugh.
  • Fetlife has gone to invite-only rather than open registration.
  • Ugh.

1.05 Topic 1 Bad Idea is Bad:

6.29 Topic 2 Invites & Community:

11.50 Topic 3 Why I Do the Show & How Fet Is Involved:

  • Kink Fixed Me: An essay I wrote a few months after joining FL about the incredibly positive changes discovering BDSM had made in my life.
  • Perverted Podcast: The first podcast about kink I found. I highly recommend it.

22.08 Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be interviewing Nookie, the author of many books, specifically how to run a Female Led Relationship.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated!
  • Subscribe, stream or download from libsyn here. All episodes are available in a pop out player on this page.
Jul 19, 2016

 

Episode the Seventeenth; Wherein the Pageist learns the importance of sticking to her diet in her dotage, but doesn't allow ageing to dampen her love of coloring books. This week's book reviews are a trilogy of non-fiction books about Female Led Relationships by NookieNotes.

 

Intro and Announcements

Coloring book Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/983489211/butterflies-dragonflies-and-toadstools?ref=user_menu

Book Reviews

  • She Makes the Rules: Create the FLR (Female Led Relationship) of His and Her Dreams by Nookie. The first book in the series concerns the basics of FLRs. Why people may want one and how to begin building an FLR. She's careful to stress there doesn't have to be any kink involved.
  • She's in Control: A Guide to Finding and Developing Your Lover's Inner Domme by MsNN. This one is geared towards D/s relationships with a female in control and a male in the submissive role.
  • Slave to Her Whim: A Guide to Finding Your Passion and Freedom in Total Power Exchange by Nookie. As the title suggests, this one is aimed at people interested in M/s style relationships with a woman in charge. (The book is currently off Amazon for editing, but I'll add the link once it's available again.)
  • The author's Fet Profile is here.
  • Episode 13 of The Pageist, with a review of Paradigms of Power and a discussion of being an s-type without being submissive--a theory espoused by Dr Bob Reubel.
  • The People of Kink Episode 201: Approaching a Dominant with AliceinBondageland

Closing Remarks:

  • Thank you for tuning in!
  • In the next episode I'll be interviewing the author of this episode's books.
  • Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads and join the Fetlife group.
  • You can also subscribe to this website through the email form in the sidebar.
  • Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be great!
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Jul 1, 2016

Episode the Sixteenth; Wherein the Pageist goes her own way whilst Britain attempts to do the same, (hopefully she'll have better luck). The topic is toxic masculinity and the messages that leads to rape culture and mass violence. Book reviews return next week.

 

Intro & Announcements:

Brock Turner (Toxic Masculinity & Rape Culture):

Omar Mateen (Homophobia & Misogyny):

Jun 26, 2016

Episode the Fifteenth, Wherein the Pageist shares her experiences of her first kinky conference and learns how to communicate her filthiest desires using the newest technology.

The book reviewed this episode is Tina Horn's Sexting: The Grownup's Little Book of Sex Tips for Getting Dirty Digitally. It's an excellent, straightforward, all-genders and orientations-inclusive guide to figuring out what you want in the bedroom and how to ask for and get it.

If you're kinky and you've ever wanted to give some communication tips to your vanilla friends--here's the way to do it. 

My Submissive Life:

Kevin and katie: http://www.kevinandkatie.net/

arcane's Attic: http://www.arcanesattic.com/ 

Email him at: arcane@arcanesattic.com

Manor Gear: http://manorgear.com/

Mr Malaprop: https://mmalapropdesign.wordpress.com/things-i-make/

Leather Passions: http://shopleatherpassions.com/

Page with photos of what I bought: http://thepageist.com/2016/06/15/recent-kinky-purchases-show-tell/

 

Book Review:

Sexting: The Grownup's Little Book of Sex Tips for Getting Dirty Digitally by Tina Horn: http://amzn.to/28XqQWB

Why Are People Into That?! podcast: http://whyarepeopleintothat.com/

Multiamory podcast on writing your profiles: http://www.multiamory.com/podcast/54-polyamory-and-online-dating

Private Photo Vault: https://privatephotovault.com/

Jun 10, 2016

Episode the Fourteenth; Wherein the Pageist celebrates another successful trip around the sun and also interviews the charming and intelligent Dr Gloria Brame.

 

Links:

http://gloriabrame.com/

Twitter: @DrGloriaBrame

Jun 6, 2016

Episode the Thirteenth; Wherein The Pageist discusses power exchange, what it means to her and even figures out what style makes the most sense for her life. (It was extremely obvious--the Pageist can be oblivious.)

The book reviewed is Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/slave Relationships edited by Raven Kaldera (http://amzn.to/20Y46X1), which is a collection of essays by people in a variety of power exchange relationships.

What I Mean When I Say She's Hot: Being Asexual and Kinky: http://thepageist.com/2015/11/05/being-asexual-and-kinky/

A Handful of Cinnamon: (The My Submissive Life segment in essay form): http://thepageist.com/2016/04/10/handful-cinnamon-power-exchange-kink-sex/

Erotic Awakening interview with Bob Rubel (episode 348): http://eroticawakening.libsyn.com/ea348-bdsm-culture

May 25, 2016

Episode the Twelfth wherein the Pageist is glad to be back. She talks about two sexy new maps in her life and two sexy books she's read.

The books reviewed in this episode are Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by Gloria Brame, William Brame and Jon Jacobs and Different Loving Too: Real People, Real Lives, Real BDSM by Dr Gloria Brame and William Brame.

The first was published in 1993 and was the first book to attempt to show what a wide array of kinksters got up to through interviews, quotes and historical context.

The second was published in 2015 and catches up with some of the original interviewees, but also canvasses newer players about practices and desires. The difference in the scene between the two books is remarkable.

 

LINKS

My new theme song comes from Count Boogie of Perverted Podcast: pervertedpodcast.com

The show's listener's map: http://www.travbuddy.com/maps/6928426

Podtrac Survey: http://www.podtrac.com/audience/start-survey.aspx?pubid=iPbbHhuqVWOI&ver=standard

Human Sex Map: http://thepageist.com/2016/03/13/my-sex-map/

Apr 24, 2016

Episode the Eleventh: Wherein The Pageist talks porn: lesbian porn, BDSM porn, porn for men... no book review this week, though, as she is preparing for a more involved episode about two books by Gloria Brame.

The Pageist Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/141222

Podcast & Radio Addict: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bambuna.podcastaddict&hl=en

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

A Couple of Kinks: http://acoupleofkinks.com/

Hole Punch Toys: http://www.holepunchtoys.com/shop/

Hey Epiphora: http://www.heyepiphora.com/2016/04/review-hole-punch-toys/

Episode 002 Playing Well with Others: http://thepageist.com/2016/01/12/episode-002-playing-well-and-nipples/

Lesbian Porn for Men vs Lesbian Porn for Lesbians: An Annotated List: http://thepageist.com/2015/07/05/lesbian-porn-for-men-vs-for-lesbians/

Oh Joy Sex Toy Crash Pad Review: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/crashpad/

Oh Joy Sex Toy Crash Pad Set Visit: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/porn-set-visit/

Porn for Men: http://thepageist.com/2015/11/08/porn-for-men/

Finding the Lesbians on Kink.comhttp://thepageist.com/2015/05/31/finding-the-lesbians-on-kink-com/

Apr 13, 2016

Episode the Tenth; wherein the Pageist invites everyone to her Fetlife group, meets her first human puppy and rethinks her entire philosophy of coming out. 

The book reviewed this episode was the mind-expanding Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection and Privacy by Jiz Lee, a collection of essays by 57 people involved in various aspects of the porn industry. Contributors ranged from decades-long members of the sex work industry to someone trying to break in and everything in-between. Sexualities and genders also vary widely. The stories are funny, philosophical, heartbreaking, infuriating and hopeful. 

PodTrac Survey: http://thepageist.com/podcast/

The Pageist Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/141222

The People of Kink guest hosted by The Pageist: http://thepeopleofkink.libsyn.com/tpok-175-the-pageist-interviewing-bodhi

The Cage: https://thecage.co

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

Erotic Awakening Episode 391 Daddy Grrl (includes sensual domination and sensual humiliation): http://eroticawakening.libsyn.com/ea391-daddy-grrl

Erotic Awakening Episode 376 Puppy Play with Sir Justin: http://eroticawakening.libsyn.com/ea376-puppy-play-with-sir-justin

ThreeL Media: http://threelmedia.com/

ThreeL Media books on Amazon:

Coming Out Like a Porn Star: http://www.amazon.com/Coming-Out-Like-Porn-Star/dp/0990557162/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-1&keywords=threel+media

Unshaven: Modern Women, Natural Bodies: http://www.amazon.com/Unshaven-Modern-Women-Natural-Bodies/dp/099055712X/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-2&keywords=threel+media

Carnal Anomaly: Transhuman Form and Flesh: http://www.amazon.com/Carnal-Anomaly-Transhuman-Form-Flesh/dp/0990557146/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-3&keywords=threel+media

Love Not Given Lightly: Profiles from the Edge of Sex: http://www.amazon.com/Love-Not-Given-Lightly-Profiles-ebook/dp/B00PSSK13K/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1460429609&sr=8-4&keywords=threel+media

Tina Horn on Twitter: @tinahornsass 

Jon Millward Study of Names: http://jonmillward.com/blog/studies/deep-inside-a-study-of-10000-porn-stars/

 

Lily Cade on Cracked: http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-1816-6-things-you-learn-as-lesbian-porn-star.html

 

Lance Hart (Who doesn't have an essay in the book, but his piece on Cracked is great): http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-1386-5-reasons-being-male-porn-star-less-fun-than-it-looks.html

Mar 27, 2016

Episode the Ninth; Wherein the Pageist deals with some heavy irony and learns who her friends are, passes on some important information to her listeners and reviews books full of pretty paintings of kinky lesbians.

Book reviewed in this episode: Sunstone by Stjepan Sejic (pronounced Stephen). The first four volumes of the comic about Allison and Lisa, two women exploring kink together. One has a little more experience and a great deal of gear. The comics involves both of the women and the people important to their lives.

The series is still ongoing and is free-to-read on DeviantArt here: http://shiniez.deviantart.com/gallery/35675685/chapter-1-completed though I explain on the podcast why you may prefer the physical copies.

Listener Survey: http://www.podtrac.com/audience/start-survey.aspx?pubid=iPbbHhuqVWOI&ver=standard

The People of Kink: http://thepeopleofkink.libsyn.com/webpage

Power Exchange Summit: http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

Mr Malaprop: https://mmalapropdesign.wordpress.com/things-i-make/

Bastard Ropes: http://bastardropes.com/

Get 10% off your books if you use the code pageist at alifelessmonogamous.com or mylifeontheswingset.com

 

HPV Information

CDC: http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm

American Cancer Society: http://www.cancer.org/cancer/cancercauses/othercarcinogens/infectiousagents/hpv/hpv-landing

Oh Joy Sex Toy by Erika Moen: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/hpv/

HPV and Cancer in the LGBT Community: http://www.cancer-network.org/cancer_information/hpv_and_cancer/

Information about HPV Duration: http://www.foundationforwomenscancer.org/questions-from-readers-hpv-duration/

Multiamory episode about STDs including HPV: http://www.multiamory.com/podcast/51-making-safe-sex-more-sexy

Perverted Podcast episode including segment on HPV: [as 32:50] https://soundcloud.com/perverted-podcast/show-41-super-villians-need-cuddles-too

My essay about HPV that includes a photo of little Jesus: http://thepageist.com/2016/03/17/good-news-bad-news-vice-versa/

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